A word of warning to all who take their mom for granted.
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Why Some People Die Long Before They Stop Breathing
We Can All Choose to Sit Around and Wait For Death, or Live Until We Die.
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Mental Health Writing Is a Tightrope Walk
There is no way to please everyone in the world of mental health writing.
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Preserving Dignity in a Dying Loved One
Maintaining a Dying Loved One's Dignity Is Achieved Through Caring For the Entire Person
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The Affair “Bubble” Is A Place of Deception and Delusion
When relationship crises strike, some people sneak away into a secret fantasy world that is all sty;e, and no substance.
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How Twitter Became a Responsibility
As I type this sentence, I’m thinking about a Canadian woman named Jody, whose Twitter handle is @onelastkick71. Because I have not seen a “tweet” from her in 24 hours, I am wondering if she is still alive, and fearing she is not. Through my social media connection with Jody, I’ve sensed anguish in her tweets, the most recent of which read, “pray for me not to wake up tomorrow.” I hate that she’s in this pain. I hate my feelings of helplessness, and I hate that I have no idea if she’s taking a social media break, or if she is gone. At some point, Twitter got serious, and I…
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Healing My Relationship with Time
As my 50th birthday storms toward me, reflection on my historical relationship with time reveals Borderline Personality traits; I had a knack for pushing time away, and crying when I felt it abandoned me. Because I demand a certain amount of control in my relationships, and time is reluctant to be controlled, we often grappled. Time went undefeated. Conversations with other people, both personally and professionally, have taught me this relationship style with time is common. Many people seem to wish time away, then wonder where it has gone. Death denial is an adaptive defense mechanism we use to shield us from morbid preoccupation with mortality, but there comes a point when…
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How Infidelity Transforms Death Anxiety Into Death Denial
Many of us are in a life stage characterized more by “lasts” than “firsts.” We are working at our last jobs before retirement, occupy the last homes in which we will ever live, and might be in the last romantic relationships of our lives. It’s not so much that there are no remaining “firsts”, but there is little thrill in first social security check, or first colonoscopy. When we sense Winter is coming, and Spring has passed, awareness of mortality triggers anxiety we didn’t experience in our youth. As we age, awareness of death increases in many ways, most powerful being the death of our parents who we once perceived as immortal. Aging also…
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Dear Parents, Stop Scapegoating Your Kids
When Children Are Scapegoated as Identfied Problems, Their Self-Esteem Takes a Hit
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The Problem With “Color Blindness”
Rejecting Racism Through Color Blindness Does Nothing to Eradicate Racism. In Fact, It Perpetuates It.
